3 Things To Follow When Dating Even With Herpes

When you're diagnosed with herpes, one of the biggest fears is will somebody accept me because I have herpes. So the whole dating thing is to tell this person I have herpes. How am I going to do this? Am I going to get through it? What's going on so? Before I get to that, let's talk about the three things you need to know about the dating period.

 ONE:  when you go on a date did you have fun like was it fun whatever it is that you did whether you went go-cart racing you went to the fair you went to dinner you went to coffee you went for a walk he went to a boxing class whatever did you have fun? Was it fun with that person? Did you laugh, did you enjoy your time, or was it like a miserable experience was it like? Oh my gosh, what is this over? This person is such a weird right, like we've all been on those dates. We were like, this is not working, and you hope the other person is feeling the same way about you, but yeah, no, but did you have fun like did you enjoy your time.

So okay, the next question because I'm going to go back to that the next question is would you sleep with this person so not are you going to not oh my gosh that's I don't know I have herpes whatever no would you like are you attracted to this person was there something that was like a bit of flame or a little sparkle a little excited about this person that you were on a date with. So did you have fun, and would you sleep with that okay before I move on? Remember three, let's go over those two if you answered yes to both those questions, then go on another date if you answered no to one of those questions stop right?

There you're forcing yourself there's plenty of fish in the sea move on so if for example if like I had fun, but I wouldn't sleep with that person then it's not fair to that other person nor was it acceptable to you right. So again, did you have fun? Did you sleep with them? If the answer is yes, then go on their date. Again, this other date does not mean you're picking out your wedding stationery guilty of that one does not mean your monogramming your pillows and second date of like my new initials will be no. I'm also guilty of that one right like have fun, okay the third thing to remember which brings us back to herpes which brings us back to herpes dating life which is one of the things that paralyze us when we do have herpes and going out is when do I disclose, and that is like the most important question ever when do I admit it's like just dreaded with a dark cloud that's it's over us right.

Whenever you're ready simple answer whenever you're ready it's not a set day it's not a set week it's not a set month it's not the typical three date rule it's nothing; it's whenever you already don't feel like I've had people in our community say oh well I told the person after going out and like for a couple of weeks. The person was like, and you wasted my time. No, that is not. Don't worry about what the other person could be, considering it's you. When do you feel comfortable disclosing, and I always say not to expose you don't need to tell? If you're not going to reveal, you don't need to know if you're not waiting. I said that all wrong if you're not going to expose you don't need to disclose right.

So if you're just going to go out and I don't know, share a pizza. You're not sleeping with the person. You're not exposing them to herpes. Have fun have pizza, whatever it is, enjoy that person. So remember, if you answered yes to the first two questions, go out again. Whenever you're ready to disclose and expose, then do the disclosure all right. I hope that helped narrow it down. Maybe take some fun, you know, not be so pressured.