While men are familiar with their own sensual fantasies, they
may not know much about their female partners’ mental tristes. Some men may
assume, consciously or unconsciously, that most women don’t have sensual
fantasies, as society pretends that sensual activity is predominantly a male
preoccupation. To the contrary, most women experience fantasies, and men would
do well to become familiar with their partners’ in the interest of promoting
greater sensual health and enjoyment. This will give them the
opportunity to incorporate elements of a woman’s sensual thoughts into
playtime, and possibly find some overlapping fantasies for both to revel in.
The following information comes from the
results of a 2014 survey of over 1,500 women in Quebec. Note: Men should never
assume a woman has a fantasy or think that she should have it. Getting to know
one’s partner’s unique hot buttons is imperative. The following only offers
some idea of what one might be in for.
Different
locations
Location turns out to be a crucial
aspect in women’s sensual fantasies – at least among those surveyed, with 86.4%
reporting that location along with atmosphere are important in their fantasies,
and 81.7 said they fantasize about sensual activity in an “unusual” location
(such as the office or a bathroom stall). A little over half – 57.3% --
fantasize about sensual activity specifically in a public place, out in the
open.
Now, it’s important to be cautious when
selecting a location. Due to public indecency laws, consent morality and more
practical concerns like losing one’s job, a couple can’t just have sensual
activity wherever they may want. Also keep in mind that the presence of a
fantasy doesn’t mean a person actually wants to fulfill it. But a couple can
find ways to engage these fantasies safely and ethically – for example, they
may pretend they are in public and entertain some dirty talk about being watched,
or they may find consenting individuals to watch them in the act or view a
video of it. They could also engage in sensual activity in a slightly less
unusual, but still atypical, location, such as the kitchen instead of the
bedroom.
Oral
sensual activity
While a man should certainly not assume
all or even most women want to spend tons of time going down on men, the survey
did show a high level of fantasy around providing oral sensual activity, with
72.1% experiencing such fantasies. More – 78.5% – answered yes to the more
broadly-framed “I have fantasized about taking part in” oral on a man or woman.
Men should ask women how they feel about
providing oral. Some are fine with it, so long as it doesn’t take over sensual
activity, and/or it is reciprocated. Some are more enthusiastic about it, and
may fantasize about performing it in certain positions, or with added kinky
elements, such as having their hair pulled and heads directed if submission is
their thing. Women with a dominant streak may prefer having complete control
and participating in kinks like release control and denial.
Manual
play
Many survey participants reported
fantasizing about being manually stimulated by a partner (71.4%) and manually
stimulating a partner (68.1%). This suggests that, for many women, manual play,
both received and administered, is a desirable aspect of sensual activity.
Fortunately, it’s easy to incorporate!
Manual play, whether one-at-a-time or mutual, is a great way to pleasure one’s
partner while learning more about his or her body. It can add a level of
intimacy and pleasure to sensual activity that may be lacking without it. So
get those hands busy.
Men who are taking steps to improve
their sensual lives should, of course, not neglect the part of their body most
affiliated with the act. Manhood upkeep is imperative to keeping the member in
peak form both aesthetically and functionally. Along with regular washing,
frequent use and wearing protection, men can go the extra mile by incorporating
a male organ health crème (health
professionals recommend Man1 Man Oil) into their care regimens. Keeping the
manhood moisturized will protect it against chafing from friction and promote
the maintenance of high sensitivity levels in the long run. Better member
health means better sensual activity, and is worth the investment.
Visit http://www.menshealthfirst.com for additional information on most common male organ
health issues, tips on improving organ sensitivity and what to do to maintain a
healthy member. John Dugan is a professional writer who specializes in men's
health issues and is an ongoing contributing writer to numerous websites.