Some people are reluctant to acknowledge when their time between
the sheets becomes a bit underwhelming. A satisfying lovemaking life is an
important part of an individual’s wellbeing along with the health of a
relationship; lackluster lovemaking can take its toll on both, and therefore
deserves acknowledgment and attention from both partners. Writing for Huffington Post, couples
mediator Debra Mcleod describes eight common sensual complaints she hears from
both men and women. If bedroom playtime has become more bust than bang,
consider whether these problems might be to blame in the interest of
maintaining sensual health.
Boredom
This is especially common in long-term relationships. It can be
a hard topic to broach, because one doesn’t want to cause his or her partner to
think that he or she is no longer desirable. So understand first off that this
is not the case (necessarily, at least). Partners often fall into a sensual
routine of pre-play methods and lovemaking positions/rhythms that can simply
grow old. Mixing it up is easy – research new positions; change the pace; throw
in a toy.
Electronics in the Bedroom
It goes without saying that checking a text or Facebook
notification during playtime is a flat-out No-No. But even engaging in these
activities regularly in the bedroom when not making love can intrude upon what
could otherwise be intimate time between partners. The importance of connecting
through other means than lovemaking, such as snuggling and simply paying
attention to one’s partner, shouldn’t be underestimated. Leaving the
electronics out of the bedroom may help.
Emotional Strain throughout the
Day
A strong physical connection is, for many people, founded on a
solid emotional connection. If partners are nasty to one another throughout the
day, this is likely to take a toll in the bedroom.
Laziness
If one partner is all-in and the other simply lies there, this
can create a serious rift, leaving the enthusiastic partner feeling that his or
her desire and effort are unreciprocated. It’s not fair. A lethargic partner
might simply need to have the fact pointed out to him or her, and he or she
should be willing to get more invested in the other’s pleasure. If not, maybe that
partner isn’t the greatest match.
Not Engaging Mentally
Stimulation is part physical, part mental. If all the focus is
on physical technique, then partners are likely to be left mentally
unstimulated. Learn each other’s fantasies. Throwing in some dirty talk or
acting out a scenario from a partner’s mental spank bank can make the brain as
well as the loins throb, vastly increasing enjoyment.
Poor Body Image
Feeling bad about one’s body makes enjoyment of lovemaking
difficult. Partners can promote a healthy body image in themselves and one
another by both taking care of themselves and expressing appreciation for one
another.
Sensual Drive Difference
If one partner wants it all the time and the other isn’t
interested too often, this can create a real problem. It’s important for the
more interested partner to de-personalize the matter; it’s not him/her, it’s
the partner’s drive. However, lovemaking is important in a relationship. Don’t
minimize the issue, but don’t attack a partner for having a lower or higher
drive. Sometimes a great difference in drives is reason enough to break things
off; sometimes, a couple can find a balance that works for them.
Exhaustion
If one partner is frequently too exhausted for lovemaking, the
other can find ways to take some of his or her work on. Making dinner, doing
the dishes, putting kids to bed, etc., can all help the tired partner preserve
enough energy for lovemaking.
In addition to identifying problems in the bedroom and learning
ways to resolve them, men can take an extra step to boost sensual health. Using
a male organ health crème (health professionals
recommend Man1 Man Oil) on
a daily basis can address common manhood issues like dry skin, making the
member more pleasing to the touch. It can also help heighten and preserve
sensation in the organ, something every man can benefit from. Taking care of
oneself is a great way to boost confidence and show oneself love, which can
lead to receiving more love in the sack from one’s partner.
Visit http://www.menshealthfirst.com for additional information on most common male organ
health issues, tips on improving organ sensitivity and what to do to maintain a
healthy member. John Dugan is a professional writer who specializes in men's
health issues and is an ongoing contributing writer to numerous websites.