How to Deal with Not Seeing Your Grandchildren?

One of the few good things about getting old is that you get to relax, rest, and spend some quality time with your family and with your grandchildren. However, if you lose contact with your grandchildren or are not able to see them because of an ongoing family feud, it may leave you emotionally stressed and heartbroken. 

 

No matter for what reason, if you are not allowed to see your grandchildren, you must know that the family law has laid down the grandparent visitation rights that allow you to visit your grandchildren. So, you can always take support of the law if the parents are not letting you see your grandchildren despite your best efforts.

 

What are some ways in which you can deal with not seeing your grandchildren?

You can follow the following strategies to deal with your emotions and find a way to navigate what you are going through.

1.   Don’t let your emotions overpower you

When you are not allowed to see your grandparents, you must be going through a lot of emotions like anger, confusion, and shock. In this situation, it is important to not let your emotions overpower you and your feelings of love towards your grandchildren. If you are feeling too emotional, it is better to talk to a reasonable person and let out your emotions than do something you might regret in the future.

2. Try talking to the parents and resolving the issue

If you have some ongoing family feud that is keeping you away from your grandchildren, it is better to talk to their parents and try to solve the issue at hand. If the parents are willing to talk, you can discuss what went wrong and apologize to make the situation better. 

3. Find some hobbies to indulge yourself

Rather than constantly thinking about what went wrong and how unfair the whole situation is, you can find some hobbies to keep yourself engaged and distract yourself from the situation for some time to protect your mental health. 

4. Get knowledge about the legal rights of the grandparents

The family law and the child care and protection law are the two main laws that affect the grandchildren and grandparents. The family law has laid down visitation rights that allow grandparents to visit their grandchildren regularly. The grandparents can take help of this law in court for orders that their grandchildren stay with them or have regular contact with them. 

 

However, this in no way means that the grandparents get direct rights to have contact with their grandchildren. Both of the above laws work by considering the best interests of the children. So that is what the final decision will depend on.

5. Get legal advice

You can always consider getting legal advice from a trusted attorney who will explain to you the grandparents' rights and will help you in the matter at hand. This will also help if you ever decide to go to court to file an order for visiting your grandchildren. Instead of taking matters into your own hands and doing something reckless, it is always better to get the right legal advice. 

 

All the above strategies can help deal with the issue of not seeing your grandkids. But you should always remember that taking legal help and going to court should be your last option. You should first try to resolve the matters on a personal level to avoid a long legal battle and the emotional stress that comes with it.