Your Mirror Has Two Images
Summary:
How you see yourself is not the same as how those around you see you. Your personal growth is as if the mirror that reflects who you are has two images. And the image that you present to your world is exactly what is reflected back to you in loss or fulfillment.
The mirror in front of you has two images ... always has... and you never knew it. The you that you see is not the same as the you that I see when I look in your mirror. Your personal growth has a history as well as the growing part. What you see is the you that is history. Good or bad, your image staring back at you reminds you of every defeat and every victory ever painted onto the canvas of your life. As you see those eyes coming back at you, the memories of all that past colors how you see your mirror. And in that cosmic nanosecond that you look away to move on with your day, you make a choice. That choice is how you present your self to the world until the next moment that you check yourself in the mirror to review your personal growth. You choose to present yourself either as -- in the flow of all that is the positive image of your life. Or you choose to present yourself as the victim of all the influences the you believe you cannot control.
What I see is you here, now, right now. If I am a person just meeting you; there is no knowledge of all the past, bad or even good. And even if I do know you very well, my reaction to who you are is still in the now. I react to how you present yourself to me or any other person that matters in your life. This is important for you to take with you each day. Present yourself in confidence and expectation and the people you interact with will also reflect that confidence and expectation. But if you instead present yourself in misery and woe then that too is what will be reflected back to you ... or else the person you hoped to engage with in some sort of interaction will actually pull away from you.
People are drawn toward others that build up their view of the world they love and adore. If your presentation of yourself builds them up, validates their beliefs, and supports their own goals then they will reflect back to you what you offer and your relationship with them will become deeper and have more value. The converse also applies. If you bring with you the image from your mirror of all the defeats and trials of your history and offer that in your presentation of yourself; then you will see people draw away from you.
When you validate others by supporting their values you become a fast friend or a business associate with a stronger relationship. This is best accomplished by asking leading questions that allow them to share their mirror with you. Ask enough questions and people offer to you their needs that you may possibly be able to offer a solution that has benefited you.
Until your own mirror becomes radiant enough to draw others to you it is well to learn from leaders whose mirror is clear and shows the way to a more abundant life. A great place to star is by using the free inspirational material at White Dove Books The videos and ebooks there have helped me significantly to improve my own mirror of personal growth. I am so happy to share the blessing.
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Comments (17)
Toshiba Burton
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Social Media Consultant
Hi Tony again I really appreciate this article!
Pablo Martinez
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Distribuidor
Es un comentario estupendo
Krutika
3
Has a special touching message on which make spearhead more things in my life.Thank you for that great article please.
Rajeev Bagdi
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I am an Online Networker.
Great article with a good message.
Gary White
1
Very good most people don't think that way and that is one r3ason they fail in this biz.
Marie Rego
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I agree ,with the points you've made, because our past isn't the only thing that defines who we are as people. Having confidence, being secure in our own skin, and treating ourselves and others with respect makes a big difference in how we are seen
Tony Denson
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Local Market Consultant
Thank you all for your kind comments. This article is written totally from the heart after watching some folks succeed and other folks flounder in their efforts. Changing what I choose to present to the world has made a huge difference for me so I just wanted to give the idea to you
Tony Denson
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Local Market Consultant
Paula since you have an interest in the psychology of interaction and growth you may want to check out the selfgrowth website or you may already be a contributor. Lots of inspiration in lots of categories of life.
Sareena Saulter
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I really enjoyed this ,it really inspired and motivated me, thanks so very much1
Netra B.
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Social Media/ Marketing Expert
Nice Tony... I am currently researching the affiliate program White Dove offers.. Thanks for sharing!
Karen L.
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Personal Development
I enjoyed reading your article Tony, it is very well presented and offers sound advice. I agree with the points you've made because our past isn't the only thing that defines who we are as people. Having confidence, being secure in our own skin, and treating others,and ourselves with respect makes a big difference in how we are seen by others.
I believe that even our mistakes in life are meant to make us see growth when we look in the mirror if we acknowledge them, accept the consequences, a
Selya Rollins
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Creative Imagery
Like that title Tony, the mirror of personal growth should be a daily routine.
Paula van Dun
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Retired
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Toshiba Burton
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Social Media Consultant
Wow thanks for this inspiration people are drawn to others who have are confident within themselves this can have a huge impact on others.
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Malok Mading
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Writer and Blogger.
Has a special touching message on which make spearhead more things in my life.Thank you for that great article please.
Paula van Dun
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Retired
This is an excellent article and I agree with most of it. Knowing a bit of psychology and using this knowledge is helpfull both in personal and in business life. I will bookmark this page. Psychology is one of my fields of interest.