My Dad my Hero, mentor and now he is gone

Posted by Joseph Botelho
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Jun 7, 2010
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My Dad my Hero, mentor and now he is gone.


Yea it has been exactly one year when l wrote this article..........and when it happened...not a really good week...........Life is filled with obstacles, you just have to learn how to deal with them..........we all suffer differently............sharing my pain helps..............if you have lost a loved one then you will understand why l wrote this...........please leave a reply......it helps!!!


I have been a way from Apsense for a while, dealing with something l hope no one ever has to go through. My father became missing on Wednesday of last week and finally seven days later the police located his body, badly decomposed as sad is it was at least our family got closer, not many families get that and have to live with not knowing what has happened to their loved one.


The seven day waiting period was the hardest time l have encountered in my life, not knowing where he was or where he could be, was mentally stressful beyond any words l can use to describe how l felt as well as the rest of the family and friends of ours. The pain will have an impact on me for a longtime and l am now finally trying to get back to my normal life, not going to be easy but time will cure the pain and makes me a stronger person.


The service and support we got from our friends, families where absolutely life saving you really have no idea until you go through this process of support. It helped comfort and made me strong for my family l don't think l could have gotten through this with out that support. I just like to thank all of my friends for their generous and over whelming support we got from them all..


He is now gone and in a better place, no more will "HE" have to suffer or have to see another doctor, hospital or any of that. He was very ill, most of his organs where failing and according to the autopsy report he would not have made it pass August of this year.....The cancer had spread beyond repairable.



I just wanted to share this moment with all who read this article and l certainly hope it helps you with something you had to deal with in life we all suffer and grief differently from one another. What makes us all so very special how we handle success and grief is our true colors of our make up. Yes it is not easy writing this article but l feel better doing it....


All The Best,


Joseph F. Botelho
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Joseph Botelho
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Working on one project at a time.

Well like to take the time and thank all of my friends here with their support and effort to make me feel the best l could....Missed this place glad to be back at it and also one last thing...Just to wish my dad a "HAPPY BIRTHDAY TODAY".........

Oct 21, 2010 Like it
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Dian Rowe
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I just saw your letter and I am really sorry to hear, just remember to put God first because with him all things are possible and he knows best.

Jul 21, 2010 Like it
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Lonnie Niver
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Niver's Art

Joe I am so sorry about your lost. I was wondering what had happen to you and now I know. Take care of your family and know that you have friends on Apsense thinking about you and your family.

My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family, my friend.

Lonnie

Jun 17, 2010 Like it
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game4boss
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Want to let everyone know that Wincer does a great Job at what he does. Wincer creates some of the best system i've ever seen. Get With Wincer it will be the best thing you've ever done. Robert Phillips

Jun 10, 2010 Like it
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Wincer Song
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APSense Founder

Hi, Joseph

Best regards to your family.

Jun 8, 2010 Like it
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Joseph Botelho
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Working on one project at a time.

Thanks words are wisdom and have a way or providing you with comfort in to help us all get through all of this. Yea the hardest thing was not know where he was for seven days, that is and always will be the hardest thing for me to every forget the pain and sleepless nights l had.

Finally having closer helps knowing he is not suffering anymore this makes me happy, he would of lived pass August the cancer was now attacking the rest of his organs and kidneys had stopped working but he got lost

Jun 8, 2010 Like it
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Rob aka Cerberus
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Better World Partisan

Heartful Condolences to the Family and You, Joseph!

Jun 8, 2010 Like it
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Rob Burns
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IBO, CEO, Dealer, Direct Sales

My prayers are with you.I lost my Dad due to cancer 5 years ago after working with him for 25 years.After his death I didn't know which way to turn but, I know he's a better place now and he dosen't have to suffer anymore.God bless.

Jun 8, 2010 Like it
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Joseph Botelho
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Working on one project at a time.

Yea thanks Cheryl never easy hard time for all of us but we will deal with it one day at a time all l can really do at the moment...made me look at life much differently this l know....l enjoy what l have and never forget where l came from....

Jun 8, 2010 Like it
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Cheryl Baumgartner
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Medical Billing/Coding/Insurance

I do not know all the pain you have gone through but I do know some of it. You are in my prayers and know that someday the pain will ease and on that day you will once again be able to feel the love and caring he had for you through the memories of the times you shared.

And I also know that two very special ladies were probably waiting there to welcome him home.

Jun 7, 2010 Like it
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Joseph Botelho
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Working on one project at a time.

Thank you not a whole lot we can say other then l found closer with all of this..

Jun 7, 2010 Like it
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Darrel (MyMagic) Hoo...
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Multiple streams, free to join.

My thoughts and prayers are with you friend

Jun 7, 2010 Like it
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