My Dad my Hero, mentor and now he is gone

Posted by Joseph Botelho
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Jun 7, 2010
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My Dad my Hero, mentor and now he is gone.


Yea it has been exactly one year when l wrote this article..........and when it happened...not a really good week...........Life is filled with obstacles, you just have to learn how to deal with them..........we all suffer differently............sharing my pain helps..............if you have lost a loved one then you will understand why l wrote this...........please leave a reply......it helps!!!


I have been a way from Apsense for a while, dealing with something l hope no one ever has to go through. My father became missing on Wednesday of last week and finally seven days later the police located his body, badly decomposed as sad is it was at least our family got closer, not many families get that and have to live with not knowing what has happened to their loved one.


The seven day waiting period was the hardest time l have encountered in my life, not knowing where he was or where he could be, was mentally stressful beyond any words l can use to describe how l felt as well as the rest of the family and friends of ours. The pain will have an impact on me for a longtime and l am now finally trying to get back to my normal life, not going to be easy but time will cure the pain and makes me a stronger person.


The service and support we got from our friends, families where absolutely life saving you really have no idea until you go through this process of support. It helped comfort and made me strong for my family l don't think l could have gotten through this with out that support. I just like to thank all of my friends for their generous and over whelming support we got from them all..


He is now gone and in a better place, no more will "HE" have to suffer or have to see another doctor, hospital or any of that. He was very ill, most of his organs where failing and according to the autopsy report he would not have made it pass August of this year.....The cancer had spread beyond repairable.



I just wanted to share this moment with all who read this article and l certainly hope it helps you with something you had to deal with in life we all suffer and grief differently from one another. What makes us all so very special how we handle success and grief is our true colors of our make up. Yes it is not easy writing this article but l feel better doing it....


All The Best,


Joseph F. Botelho
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Teodor M.
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I see too many people today that do not appreciate much their parents while the parents are still alive... My parents left the world I live in many years ago, and since then I miss them... I understand you very well Joseph. Hope all people who read this and have parents will respect them much more by being there when parents need sons and daughters to be close... and I know, they need your presence very much! I'd give a fortune to have them back, but can't do it now! One day will be too late for

Dec 6, 2011 Like it
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Joseph Botelho
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Never easy when you lose a loved one, and if that loved one was your dad...............there is not a day the goes by that l did not think about something l did or he did...not always good either...

Dec 4, 2011 Like it
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Paula van Dun
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A year has passed.....I can't imagine how it feels, my parents are both still alive and healthy. But I can imagine it becomes more difficult some time after the passing away and the funeral. After all arrangements have been made, the support will slowly fade (except from family and some close friends) and you are thrown back on yourself to cope with it all. I experienced similar when my youngest got brain damage from a flue virus. Plenty of support when it happened but pretty much alone in deali

Jun 4, 2011 Like it
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Joseph Botelho
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Hey,

I been on and off here the last few weeks, this article l wrote on my dad is the reason............but he will always be my dad and sweet memories will never die............that l love.............l can always think about them sweet memories............how many times did your dad get mad at YOU.........countless..exactly .........Yea we had a special day yesterday..................dad l wish l had said this more often..........l love you DAD.......or man as l did...................yep l

Jun 4, 2011 Like it
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Joseph Botelho
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June 2, 2011

Today is exactly one year when we buried my dad........We will be having a small family dinner in his honor this evening to share our love we had for our dad. Never an easy thing to deal with in life but we all will have to go through it one day.

This is life and we all handle these situations differently.............

Jun 2, 2011 Like it
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Joseph Botelho
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I changed my status for this reason.................thanks for all the support.............it has helped..

May 28, 2011 Like it
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Joseph Botelho
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Yes l know that, Lee and thank you for your kind words....never easy but sweet memories never die......do they..

Apr 22, 2011 Like it
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Lee L.
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The Gram Savings Plan

Every holiday is difficult when loved ones are no longer with us...I'm missing my husband and dad on all of them too Joe. My thoughts and prayers will be with you for God to ease your grief as you enjoy your holiday weekend with your family.

Apr 22, 2011 Like it
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Joseph Botelho
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Just want to say to you Dad l miss you so much............"Happy Easter" will not be the same this year..............or ever.....

Love you

Apr 22, 2011 Like it
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Toshiba Burton
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Hello just reading this article & wanted to say sorry for your lost I went through the same experience within the last 3 months my stepfather passed away from terminal cancer but he did get to reunite and make peace with us all & right he made peace he passed away in his sleep. Its still hard to believe that he is gone but I do realize he is in a better place & doesn't have to worry & suffer anymore

Jan 7, 2011 Like it
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Emma Padilla
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I'm so sorry about your dad and I pray that you and your family are doing better now. Stay well.

Nov 21, 2010 Like it
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Teodor M.
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It was like yesterday my father passed away and I had to fly from Michigan to Iasi in the very hard winter time. It took me 5 days to get there; he was in coma waiting for me to come from USA and after we met, he was gone in the next moment...
May God help you move on with your life! It is not easy, but this is life, has a beginning and an end!

Nov 20, 2010 Like it
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Joseph Botelho
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yea l do know that......l appreciate it....kind of you

Nov 20, 2010 Like it
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Dian Rowe
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you will keep missing him but life has to go on, so just keep the faith and move on.

Nov 20, 2010 Like it
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Joseph Botelho
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Yea thank yo l do appreciate it, life has to continue but them kind words help...

Nov 20, 2010 Like it
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Lovelym M.
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I am very sorry to hear that. My condolences to you and your family Sir.

Nov 20, 2010 Like it
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Joseph Botelho
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thank you Dian l appreciate that...........never easy.still miss, and more then likely will always miss him........but life has to go on..........took awhile for me to get back on track

Nov 17, 2010 Like it
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Dian Rowe
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God will take care of you.Just pray and he will come through for you.

Nov 17, 2010 Like it
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Joseph Botelho
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thank you i will read it..

Nov 17, 2010 Like it
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Marilyn Hallett
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I'm truly sorry for your loss, I, to have just this mo on the 6th lost my younger brother, due to a boating accident. I just felt the need to let you know "You will see your Dad, and all your lost loved ones again in the Resurrection"! Acts24:15; John5:28-29
Please take the time to read these scriptures and I promise you, you'll find some peace in knowing they are asleep and you will see them again. Daniel 12:2

Nov 17, 2010 Like it
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