An Itchy manhood of a Different Kind - What Behaviors Count as Cheating?
Every
man gets an occasional itchy manhood due to rashes, sweat, skin irritants and
other physical issues; and normally, a little TLC clears the itch right up. But
what about that "other" kind of itchy manhood: the one that aches to
indulge in a little outside-the-relationship exploration? And how does one
precisely define cheating anyway? This kind of situation goes a bit beyond
typical male
organ care and gets at
the heart of a couple's relationship; it's a topic men need to think carefully
about.
1)
Is it biological?
Some
people theorize that a man's desire to expand his sensual relationships beyond
traditional monogamy is biological. According to this argument, a man is made
to have more than one sensual partner because it is in the best interests of
the species to propagate and create as many descendants as possible. In order
to make this possible, this theory posits that men have a higher drive and may
possibly form less stringent attachments in their personal relationships. By
resisting these inclinations, a man may be suppressing his natural state, and
suppression tends to be unhealthy and have negative consequences.
On
the other hand, many people do not buy the biological explanation; some believe
that there is actually little variation in the natural drives of the genders
and that women's supposed lower drive is due to cultural training rather than
nature. It's also argued that all people suppress a wide range of natural
inclinations with little harm - for example, a person may feel so angry that he
wants to kill another person, but in most instances, controls the desire – and
so controlling the drive does not have to bring about dire consequences.
2)
What is cheating?
Defining
cheating can be difficult. In general, most people agree that being in a
long-term relationship and then having intimate contact with someone other than
one's partner is cheating. But that doesn't always hold true: some couples have
open relationships in which sensual encounters outside the initial pairing is
accepted. Some couples engage in activities in which the couple invites another
person or people to join them in a group encounter. For these couples, this
does not count as cheating.
Some
people may differ in their definitions of "having intimate contact with
someone other than one's partner." Penetration is usually considered
"having relations," but what about oral contact? Or being stroked by
another person? If a man visits an establishment and enjoys a close-up dance,
is that cheating? Is going to an exotic club being unfaithful?
What
about simple manual stroking? If a man touches himself while watching adult
materials, is he cheating? What about if he does it without visual aid: does
that count as "having intimate contact with someone other than one's
partner?"
3)
Communication is key
What
it comes down to essentially is this: it's in the best interests of the parties
in a relationship to have a mutual understanding of what constitutes cheating.
In most instances, people tend to piece this together for themselves, based on
attitudes they observe or in comments they hear from their partners. But if
there is any gray area, it's a good idea to bite the bullet and bring the
subject up, in order to make sure both are on the same page in this area and
know what is expected. Knowing what each partner expects from the other in
terms of fidelity, and how each partner defines fidelity, is an important step
in keeping a relationship strong.
Another
important step for a man, with an itchy manhood or otherwise: keeping his male
organ in overall good health, both for himself and his partner. Regular use of
a high quality male organ
vitamin cream (health professionals recommend Man 1 Man
Oil) is
strongly advised for this purpose. The caring partner will select a cream that
includes both alpha lipoic acid (a powerful antioxidant) and acetyl L
carnitine, a supplement which combines synergistically with alpha lipoic acid
to provide maximum protection from damage to cell mitochondria. Another
valuable ingredient to look for: vitamin A, the anti-bacterial properties of
which fight male organ odor – a common unspoken complaint from intimate
partners.
Visit http://www.man1health.com for additional information on most common male organ
health issues, tips on improving male organ sensitivity, and what to do to
maintain a healthy male organ. John Dugan is a professional writer who
specializes in men's health issues and is an ongoing contributing writer to
numerous online web sites.