Compulsive Sensual Behavior – Recognizing the Signs of an Addiction
Sensual pleasure is a
great gift, but compulsive sensual behavior can be more like a curse. Lots of
men think that a compulsion involving sensual activity just means a guy gets
more action and only pays for it with a sore male organ or a lack of sleep. The
truth is that this is an addictive behavior and has negative consequences in
terms of both male organ health and a man's overall well-being. One of
the biggest issues is that a man whose sensuality has a compulsive component
engages in many lies to cover up his inability to control his behavior.
What is compulsive
sensual activity?
The Mayo Clinic says this
about compulsive sensual behavior:
(it) is an obsession with sensual thoughts, feelings or behaviors that
affects your health, job, relationships or other parts of your life.
A person with this kind
of addictive behavior has difficulty controlling his sensual urges. Often,
these urges are "self-contained" and do not physically affect other
people. At other times, they may involve others in a relatively benign physical
manner; in extreme cases, a sensual compulsion can lead to forced sensual encounters
with an unwilling partner.
Lies
One of the hallmarks of a
compulsive behavior is the need to lie. Sometimes the individual lies to
others; sometimes he lies to himself. Some of the common untruths that he may
offer include:
- "I'm not
hurting anyone." This is a very common
lie, and in some cases it may seem on the surface to be true. Often, a sensual
addict does not engage in behaviors that cause physical harm to another person
– or even, aside from a sore male organ, to himself. (Clearly, this does not
apply to those whose compulsion drives
them to force themselves upon
unwilling partners.)
However, addictive
behaviors can cause harm that goes beyond the physical. Because the compulsion
is usually acted upon in secret, it causes a man to hide things from other
people, even those to whom he is closest. This can cause strains in
relationships; trust issues can easily develop. In addition, the fact that he
must hide his behavior frequently creates self-esteem and/or anger issues to
develop in the individual.
- "I'm able to
control it; I just don't want to." The fact is that a sensual compulsive has, at best, limited
control over his sensual actions. He may be able to refrain from pulling out
his member and pleasuring himself in public, but he is not able to maintain the
kind of control that is viewed as typical and healthy.
- "This is just
a phase." For a compulsive, this is
not true. There may be periods of time when he is relatively in control, but
the frequent repetition of these "phases," and the intensity and
urgency associated with them, demonstrate an actual compulsion.
- "I feel
fine." Most compulsives feel
shame, anger, guilt and a range of other emotions, but not "fine;"
depression is common. Those who do not experience these emotions are often
repressing them – a situation which is not healthy.
A man who engages in
compulsive sensual activity needs to seek professional help to learn to manage
the compulsion. In the meantime, this kind of compulsive behavior frequently
causes a man to suffer from an extremely sore male organ or from rawness of the
organ due to overuse or overaggressive handling. Using a high quality male
organ health cream (health
professionals recommend Man 1 Man Oil) can
help to manage some of the physical distress caused by the compulsion. Relief
from soreness can be obtained by using a cream that includes a soothing high
end emollient such as shea butter. It's also essential that the cream contains
vitamin C, which can assist with the collagen production that an overused
member requires to remain healthy.
Visit http://www.man1health.com for additional information on most common male organ health issues,
tips on improving manhood sensitivity, and what to do to maintain a healthy
member. John Dugan is a professional writer who specializes in men's health
issues and is an ongoing contributing writer to numerous online web sites.