If the Manhood Could Speak – What Men Want Women to Know
For
many people, expressing their intimate wants and needs is a difficult thing to
do. Asking a partner to
perform a specific intimate act may make them feel dirty or even
embarrassed. What’s even
worse is that sometimes people fail to communicate the things that they don’t like – or even things that are painful
– because they are concerned about hurting their lover’s feelings. However, if both partners can learn to
have open, honest communication during their sessions between the sheets, it
will be a more enjoyable time for both parties. Here are some communication tips to
break the ice as well as how to keep the manhood healthy and performing at its peak capacity.
1. Nobody is a mind reader:
It is important to keep in mind that no partner – whether it’s the
1st time or the 100th time – is a mind reader. A man may be thinking to himself, “How could she possibly think that
feels good” and give a subtle
movement to readjust so she gets the clue, but perhaps that subtle movement is
misinterpreted as pleasure, so that she just does more of the undesirable action. Not talking
is only going to cause frustration that a partner is doing too much – or too
little – of something; on the other hand, a gently stated, “Not so rough, please” can easily clear up the problem.
2. Be careful on the delivery:
If a guy snaps at his partner during intimacy, saying, “Ouch, don’t do that, do this!” It may just hurt the feelings of a
well-intentioned lover. The
same message can be relayed in a more gentle way by simply saying, “I really
love being touched here, instead.” Follow
up with a little positive reinforcement (e.g., moaning) and the partner is sure
to see the move as a winner and ditch the old technique.
3. Give a compliment:
Complimenting a partner about things that are going well means
they are likely to give more of the same. If there is a killer position that a
man just can’t get enough of, he needs to tell his partner, as she is likely
going to be willing to repeat something that is getting positive results. When it comes to intimacy – and
especially trying out new material – anybody can get nervous, but positive
feedback increases confidence and willingness to try new things.
4. Ask how it feels:
Sometimes one partner is more forthcoming with information than
the other. If a guy gets nothing but an occasional nod from his partner, he is
unlikely to know if he is meeting her standards. Occasionally asking, “How does that feel?” or “Is this okay?” opens up the dialogue for her to say
yes or no. Her verbal
contribution may go no further, but at least a yes or no can let a guy know if
he’s on the right track or not!
5. Show, don’t tell:
If it still feels awkward to actually speak during intimate
moments, use body language do the talking instead. If there is an awkward position,
gently guide her into a
better one. If something
feels great, be enthusiastic in body movement so she can tell the move was a
good one. A well-timed
moan, for instance, can actually add to the sensuality of the moment!
Keep
the manhood healthy
Of
course, one of the biggest keys to a good romantic life is keeping the manhood
healthy. Winter air can
leave the manhood skin dry, flaky and rather unappealing for anybody who is
getting up close and personal. Combat
dry skin with a male organ health formula (health professionals
recommend Man 1 Man Oil) that
contains vitamin E and Shea butter to really moisturize and keep the skin
healthy.
For additional information
on most common manhood health issues, tips on improving manhood sensitivity,
and what to do to maintain a healthy manhood, visit: http://www.man1health.com.
John Dugan is a professional writer who specializes in men's health issues and
is an ongoing contributing writer to numerous online web sites.