Too Fat for Intimacy? Think Again – Hands-on Hints for Enjoying Real Bodies

In a world of Photoshop, airbrushing, and misguided thinking about how the human body should appear, women are not the only ones who feel like they should conform to a physical ideal that is nearly impossible to achieve. There are plenty of men whose bodies fall somewhere outside the media ideal, and they are often just as easily convinced as women that they are unattractive to a potential intimate partner. While they may have the same desires as their more chiseled counterparts, a skewed image of what is normal may leave them feeling like they are too fat for intimacy. But the truth is that men who are on the heavier side really can experience sensuality at every level; often, all that is needed is a bit of a change in attitude. The hints below, combined with tips for maintaining a healthy male organ, can help all men learn to enjoy their bodies – right now, just the way they are.

1. Lose the negative self-talk. One of the greatest obstacles to a healthy intimacy life is poor self-esteem. Even if an overweight person is treated with kindness by others, his own negative self-image may leave him feeling unattractive, to the extent that he won’t even make the attempt to find a partner. The first thing a man needs to do to change this attitude is to tell himself that he is, in fact, attractive and worth knowing, and that he has plenty to offer. This may be easier said than done, but attitude is everything – there is nothing hotter than a person who comes off as confident and self-assured, regardless of their waistline. Another point worth noting here is that, if a man finds a partner who is interested, chances are that person is attracted to them as they are, so why not go with it and take the chance?

2. Practice getting undressed. One issue that can be difficult when it comes to “fat intimacy” is the idea of being undressed. A person who is overweight may be accustomed to covering up as much as possible, and it can feel awkward and unnatural to bare it all in front of a partner. One way to overcome this is just to spend some time alone without clothing. Maybe take some time in front of a mirror and practice sensual touch – both of the male organ and the rest of the body, and men may start to view their physique as something sensual and worthy of pleasure.

3. Focus on the feelings. For men who are used to watching adult films, the impression may be that intimacy is graceful, sensual and amazing to watch. In real life, though, intimacy really looks silly – no matter how fit the parties involved – so there is little sense in focusing on the visual aspect. Instead, concentrate on the sensations that are raised, both in the male organ and elsewhere on the body, and learn to enjoy those. And keep in mind – the individuals engaged in the act in adult viewing materials are actors, and all of that action is choreographed and edited – not a reflection of real life.

4. Try new things. For the heftier man – or woman – ordinary positions like the classic missionary may or may not work well. It is a good idea – and potentially a lot of fun – to try out new positions and make note of what works especially well, as well as what does not.

5. Keep the male organ healthy. For any man – no matter what his body proportions – to enjoy intimacy, a healthy male organ is a requirement. A male organ that has smooth, supple skin is more likely to respond to a partner’s touch, and healthy circulation is a must for strong tumescences that can stay the course. Adding a male organ health cream (health professionals recommend Man 1 Man Oil) to the daily self-care regimen can help keep the male organ ready for intimacy at all times. A product that contains ingredients like vitamin E and Shea butter can leave the skin looking and feeling vibrant and responsive, which is sure to give an added boost of self-confidence.

For additional information on most common male organ health issues, tips on improving male organ sensitivity, and what to do to maintain a healthy male organ, visit: http://www.man1health.com. John Dugan is a professional writer who specializes in men's health issues and is an ongoing contributing writer to numerous online web sites.