You complete me

      That line got a great reaction from people. Women I know felt that the a guy saying, “You complete me” was the most romantic and perfect thing a man could say. In fact men are just as guilty of thinking that. The truth is that no one can or should com­plete you. As individuals, we are just that—individ­uals. We each must complete ourselves.

      A long time ago and I don’t remember when, I heard a theory called the Theory of Circles. Believe it or not, I was in a bar when I heard this old Scottish fisherman with a long beard and a scar that ran from the top of his forehead right down through his left eye and down his check, begin to talk. Now this old man had the accent of accents, and when he opened his mouth the gold on his teeth shined and blinded me for a second. He was a scary old man, who had absolutely nothing to do with this story. The old man who told me this story was quite normal, and this is what he explained. It made sense to me, and I would like to pass it on to you.

      He explained that the planet Earth is a circle, and our being is only complete when we are our own circle as well. In the same manner that the planet revolves, our lives shift, turn and develop. Our lives don’t stay still and are not lived in one moment. He explained that the idea someone else completes you is to state that you are a half circle. He held out his thumb and index finger and made half a circle. He said, “One half circle.” With his other hand he made another half circle. He said, “Another half circle.” So there he is with both hands out and two separate half circles. I didn’t know where he was going, but he certainly had a way of holding your attention with that scar and all.

      Then he put the two half circles together and said, “You complete me. This is when two half circles form a relationship and we think everything is great. At first maybe it is. At that moment everything might seem perfect and maybe it is perfect. But remember what I said before, life does not stay the same and things change and move, just as planets revolve and shift.” He moved his hands so the two half circles moved a little and formed a gap. “This is what happens to two people who are half circles in a relationship. Things in their lives shift and a gap begins, and then (he makes the gap larger) the gap grows and they eventually divorce. They split up and go back out in the market as a half circle, looking to find another half circle to be complete.”

       “This remains the pattern of their lives, or they stay in the relationship wondering why they don't feel complete.” He went on to say, “Two half cir­cles are always just that, two half circles. No, no, my friend, the only way to be complete and the only way to have a good relationship is to be your own complete circle.” He held up his hands and made two complete circles with his thumbs and forefingers. “Then you are complete, and the only way to have a good relationship is to meet another complete circle.” He pressed the two circles against each other. “Then you are two complete circles com­plementing each other and revolving around each other as life’s currents shift and turn. No matter how life shifts and turns you’re both complete and able to help, grow with, and enjoy each other. That, my friend, is the only way you stand a chance out there. And there it is. The Theory of Circles. Now buy me another drink, laddie.” With that scar and beard, I would have bought him anything.

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