If Barry has problems with fred and barry has problems with Ted and barry has problems with...

... patrick and Barry has problems with Sue and Barry has problems with Les, then in all likelyhood... chances are BARRY has problems...

I am reminded of a sketch on a Movie i watched once (I forget the name). This guy was explaining how he had been laid of from 7 or 8 jobs because all his bosses had "problems".

Sometimes we we need to look at our life from the outside in (instead of the inside out). Perhaps sometimes we are the ones with the problem and instead of inducing "Self blame" we look for the problems in others to mirror the problems we typically have in ourselves.

Mind you, we DO live in a society that EXPECTS us to pass the blame on to someone (or something) else... The first book of the bible explains how Adam passed the blame onto Eve then Eve passed the blame onto the serpent...