Mutual Self-Gratification: Sharing Solo Pleasure
Self-gratification is, without question, a popular activity for
both men and women – but mutual self-gratification is a much rarer occurrence.
Yet sharing one's solo pleasure with another person can be a rewarding
experience for both parties. Naturally, male participants will want to make
sure that they engage in adequate male organ care so that the organ looks good and
healthy when displayed in this way. But once any shyness or hesitation about
manhood appearance is allayed, a man should be ready to plunge head first into
the mutual self-gratification experience.
Overcoming the taboo
It is undoubtedly true that there is much more openness about
self-gratification today than in years past. Certainly the subject is discussed
more freely. In the past, a man would have been loath to admit that he
self-gratified, even to his best friend. Today it's a given that men enjoy
fondling themselves at least occasionally, and some men are unashamed to admit
to their friends that pleasuring themselves is a regular activity. Organized
events such as National Self-Gratification Month help to de-stigmatize a
pastime that is enjoyed by almost all.
Nonetheless, there is still a bit of a taboo around the subject
of self-gratification. This can especially be true when dealing with two people
in a sensual relationship. For example, a man and a woman who are regularly
coupling may feel awkward discussing the subject of self-gratification. If the
relationship is one of some duration, it may be increasingly awkward. Many
times, a woman may be dismayed to know that the man with whom she is regularly
intimate also enjoys self-stimulating. There can be a feeling that this is
somehow "cheating" or that coupling is not satisfying enough.
It's natural
In fact, self-gratification is part of the menu of sensual
activities and a man who self-gratifies while in a relationship is neither
cheating nor expressing dissatisfaction with the pleasure he derives from
coupling. Spending some sensual "me time" is a legitimate need, and
one that can vary from man to man. One man may self-stimulate more times in one
week than another man does in an entire year.
Getting mutual
Couples who can overcome a reluctance to self-gratify together
can find that the experience has many rewards, such as:
- Deepening trust. Self-pleasuring in front of another
person demonstrates a deep trust in that person. This expression of trust can
strengthen an existing bond and make two people feel closer to each other.
- Excitement. By definition, self-gratification is an
exciting act – but self-gratifying together with another person increases the
excitement quotient considerably. Watching another person engaging in what is
considered a very private act can be deeply sensual.
- Education. There is a great deal that one can learn
from watching a partner self-stimulate. One can see how she handles herself and
what things she does differently; a man can learn a great deal about what
causes pleasurable sensations and can use this information when he is touching
her or coupling with her. (And the reverse is also true: She can learn about
ways she can enhance the pleasure that she gives to her partner as well.) As a
couple progresses, they may move from manually pleasuring themselves to
manually pleasuring each other – and that can also be a rather pleasurable
educational experience.
Like a bit of everyday solo pleasure, mutual self-gratification
is more enjoyable for both partners when the manhood is in good health.
Regular application of a quality male organ health crème (health professionals
recommend Man1 Man Oil) can
help to ensure that health. Self-gratification can get a bit overheated,
sometimes leading to a man handling himself too roughly or exerting a grip that
is too tight in the quest for release. This can lead to de-sensitization, but a
crème with neuroprotective acetyl L-carnitine can help repair the peripheral
nerve damage that causes loss of sensation. A well-pleasured member may also be
a bit sore; using a crème with Shea butter and vitamin E can help to alleviate
the soreness that comes from being overly-aggressive with the member. And
asking one's partner to apply the crème can be yet another way of establishing
pleasurable tenderness in a relationship.
Visit http://www.menshealthfirst.com for additional information on most common
male organ health issues, tips on improving manhood sensitivity and what to do
to maintain a healthy member. John Dugan is a professional writer who
specializes in men's health issues and is an ongoing contributing writer to
numerous websites.