We Got Game: Self-Pleasuring Play for Couples
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The sensual world inhabited by a couple is
a beautiful and fascinating thing – and one that shouldn’t be self-limited by
the participants. Coupling is, of course, a huge part of that world, as well it
should be. Many couples include oral play or “back door” activity in the mix as
well. But surprisingly, self-pleasuring is not generally included as an
activity for a couple to share. Sure, each partner may engage in private
self-pleasuring (with men often including that as part of their regular male organ care routine), but
many couples never self-stimulate in front of or with each other. Yet much can
be learned from this activity.
If
self-pleasuring is viewed as a game between two partners, it can help take a
little of the “edge” off of trying it initially. And once a couple gets used to
self-fondling together, they may find that they want to include the activity as
a more regular part of their sensual lives.
Games
people play
So
what games involve self-pleasuring? There can be quite a few, actually.
- Self-pleasuring
dice. A
pair of dice can be used to create any number of games. For example, a
partner rolls the dice. If it is even, the man starts self-gratifying; if it is
odd, the woman. That person must continue self-pleasuring until their partner’s
“side” is rolled.
- Stroking
cards. As
with dice, there are many different games a couple can create using playing
cards. One simple game is for one partner to turn over the top card of a deck
and for the other partner to stroke or rub their genitals the number of times
indicated on a card. (For example, a 4 of clubs would mean stroking or rubbing
4 times.) Play continues until release or until the couple decides to dispense
with the cards and keep self-stimulating or engage in another form of sensual
activity.
Alternatively,
a couple can play a game like Crazy 8s, but arrange for one person to keep
self-gratifying as long as red cards are played and for the other to do the
same when black suits are played.
- Music
fun. Go
to a website that plays songs or music videos and set it to play at random.
Pick a system for which partner self-fondles when. For example, if a solo male
performs, the guy self-stimulates; if a solo female, the girl does. And if it’s
a band each partner does the deed.
- Binge
self-gratifying. When
catching up on that hot series everyone’s talking about, why not self-stimulate
as well? A couple can easily determine what the rules are. For example, the
male self-fondles when a female character talks and vice versa. Or if a show has
multiple storylines, decide during which one each partner must self-gratify.
- Time
it. Simplicity
itself. Take an egg timer and turn it over. One partner self-stimulates until
the sand runs out, then turns it over and the other partner does likewise. The
same can be done with an electric timer, too.
- Playful
ping pong. Those
with a ping pong table can strip down and play ping pong, but each participant
must be self-fondling at the same time. Many other games, such as checkers or
any board game, can be adapted similarly.
Of
course, many couples will need no game in order to begin exploring
self-pleasuring together – and that’s great, too.
Whether
using a game or not, men will need to be careful not to get over-aggressive
during a self-pleasuring session (solo or with a partner). But if a rubbed raw
member occurs, applying a superior male organ health crème (health
professionals recommend Man1 Man Oil, which is clinically proven mild and
safe for skin) is urgent. Select a crème with both a high-end emollient
(such as Shea butter) and a natural hydrator (such as vitamin E) to soothe that
overworked manhood skin. And be sure the crème also includes L-carnitine, a
neuroprotective agent that can help restore sensitivity lost from rough
handling of the organ.
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