No-No's in making new contacts
People will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel."
This quote I read for the first time today, I never heard it before. But these truly are Words of Wisdom.
It is something you also want to keep in the back of your mind in your online approach of new contacts or in comments you make on other people's postings.
There are things that make me feel irritated. It are messages from new contacts that only say Hello + an affiliate link. Or new contacts contacting me through the APSense message bar to paste some affiliate link in it, sometimes without even saying hello. Of course one of your objectives to make new connections is to do business in most cases. But I don't think the above is a good approach.
There are better ways. What you could do is sending them a short message like I am Jon from Italy and I would like to get to know new people, along with the remark that they can read more about you on your profile and/or APSense ABC. (of course your updated profile). Most people will except. They won't all take the trouble to view your profile at once, but that's ok. When connected they see what you have posted and they may do so later.
Another thing what annoys me is when people comment on MY article with an advertisement for their own opportunity. Unless it is an article specifically asking to post resources of some kind, I think it is rude.
As for commenting, please realize that the member on who's post you commented gets a notification. If that member is serious about his business he/she will go there to read it and to see if a reply back is needed. If you post comment spam; comments that say nothing (thank you, very nice, etc.) that member will start to ignore you because he/she will feel you are wasting that members time.
Always try to respond in a polite way if somebody writes a comment you disapprove. Writing a comment explaining why you disapprove is more constructive than calling this person a moron.
Social marketing is about being social and mainly promoting yourself and your skills. Just try to help others. You will build nice online relations and on long term your profile and signature will do a large portion of the selling.
Comments (7)
Cindy Bolley
16
HHCTB?
I could not agree more with this Paula....
"calling this person a moron" ... So that is a bad thing... right?
Cheryl Baumgartner
12
Medical Billing/Coding/Insurance
Good stuff Paula. One thing we all need to learn is empathy with others. We need to think about how we make others feel. The best salesmen are not those who have technical selling skills but those who are able to empathize with prospects and make prospects feel positive feelings.
Andrey V.
6
moneymaker.)
Interesting article Paula.We should not forget that the not forced atmosphere has to communicate.
Paula van Dun
16
Retired
Thanks for the nice comments. Especially from you Joseph since I noticed you do not do that easily and without thought so it is highly appreciated. As usual the people who need to read this probably won't but I keep trying to educate people in these matters. But I managed to put a few on the right track which is very rewarding. There are many aspects in social marketing but I feel this one is very important. You have only one chance in making a good impression in the first contact so it better b
Allan Haastrup
7
Networker
Very good points you are taking up here Paula.
Got to remember that being social on the Internet is very similar to making new friends out there in the real world.
Joseph Botelho
15
Working on one project at a time.
I am pretty good at that..:} very well written Paula you do share a talent here..your very creative writer...l read many articles during the day and sometimes at night....
The ability to lead by example is an "Art"...when you "Master" this then you have a burning desire for success..
Success........is there as l wrote, change your words and you have changed your life..
Why? you lead your not a follower....Paula is a Leader............why l follow her..
See l can be very nice...Phil..
Philippe Moisan
16
Tutorial videos, sci-fi writer
Well written piece, Paula, your points are clearly made, the picture is a nice addition too.
Fortunately, at APSense, we have the "report abuse" link for those who try to steal the spotlight in our articles and RevPages.
I agree, staying polite with everyone helps build long term success.